We have been much more firm and have given him consequences for his negative behaviour and have followed through with: no park today (for not listening to teachers), taking the costumes away (for scaring sister), time outs, etc. for various other things. We're firm but put the blame back on him by saying, "Wow, sorry you chose not to listen to your teacher, it's a shame we won't be able to go to the park this evening..."
I know this doesn't work on every kid - especially those with impulse control issues or ADHD, etc. but Cooper can control his actions or suffer the consequences.
It's totally worked - duh, right?!
Well, he's been so good up until this point, we've not really had to do anything too drastic!
So now we know.
We're basically following the Love and Logic technique - I love this way of thinking, it's so, uh, logical!
Every day when I pick them up from school, they say, "I didn't get any write-ups today!!" and they're so proud. Of course I make a big deal of it and the teacher does too saying that they tried really hard today and succeeded! I call Jim on the way home and tell him how good they were - loudly of course!
Cooper's teacher said she felt he has made a leap forward with maturity this past week or so... we felt the same thing. Hmmmm, could discipline be the answer?!
Kara is doing well too. Her biting has almost completely stopped. I talk to her everyday and say, "What will you do if someone makes you mad?" She'll say, "Not bite. Say NO! and tell the teacher." It's definitely gotten better. The school director says her behaviour is completely normal for a 3 year old. They are still working out how to deal with strong emotions at this age but that talking to her about it every day will help.
She continues to be a genuinly sweet, loving child and only wants to please others.
There are rare times that we have to put her in time-out and that's when she runs away from us for some reason. She's a runner, that one. We're working on it and it's getting better.
Here are some random pics of the kids -
Cooper working on his computer (Cool School)
Kara taking Pink for a walk
Cooper, Kara and Me on a camel at the rodeo!